We are all familiar with well-known books that state that both men and women are from completely different planets. However, to put it more simply, men and women love differently. There are certain differences but also some similarities between how men and women love.
Men may communicate more simply than women do. Women can call up a girlfriend and talk about an issue for hours only to rehash it again the following weekend. Men may prefer to say a few words and then they are good to go.
Men may also be more task oriented. Communicating as if they are going from point A straight to Point B is where it is at for men for the most part.
There may be a huge misconception on men and their feelings. Men have feelings too, but many times men are taught as young boys not to cry or to suppress those feelings. However, it is important to note that men most certainly do have feelings and that does not make them any less masculine. In fact, it makes them more so.
It is important to remember when communicating that men have feelings too, but they may not show them as easily as women do.
Goals and Multi-Tasking
Back in the day men had to focus on one thing and one thing only and that was to kill and capture food for the family. Women, as far back as we can remember, were able to cook the food, tend to the children, and care for the elderly.
Women may simply be better at multi-tasking than men because of their genetic makeup. So, when expecting a man to do multiple tasks, don’t be disappointed if it doesn’t get done the way a woman would get the tasks done.
Men may be able to focus more and sometimes may forget to do other things because of his intense focusing abilities. Women may simply be more geared to doing many things at once.
Again, it is possible that men show affection differently than women. Women may be more giving and nurturing whereas a man may show affect on occasion and not as intense as a woman.
This may go back to men being raised not to show affection as young boys.
These are just some of the ways that men and women differ in showing love. Of course, there is always compromise on both sides.
For men the possibility exists that being in love may mean a lifelong commitment and that may provoke fear and emotions that he is not ready for something so powerful. Perhaps, a man in love still needs to feel some sense of control over his life, maybe not.
For women, being in love is more of a positive feeling in the early in love stages. Bliss and happiness are present before fear.
Sometimes simply understanding the differences and respecting them, not taking it personal and trying to come to a middle ground is what works for both parties in a relationship.